If you follow me on facebook, then you have already seen a glimpse of what I thought about the whole Miley Cyrus/VMA’s performance. But the more I see about it, the more of an opinion I have. I was shocked when I watched it. Not because I didn’t expect it of her, but because this is what so called music, dancing and videos have become. If you have followed any news about her in the last two years, this was not unexpected. She has been headed this way for awhile. But to be honest, look at any Vine video, Utube video, or even instagram video of a high school or college girl and what do you see? Alot of girls “twerking.” Maybe not to the extent of Miley, but none the less, girls with their bottoms stuck in the air, shaking it for all the world to see.
Now are they all doing it for attention or for the wrong reasons? Probably not. Its now a trend. So girls follow the trend, see if they can do it, and then video it. I am sure some think its cute and harmless. But then I pose this question. Who are our girls and guys looking up to? Admiring? Copying? What are they listening to? Watching?
No matter the age, we need to remember the song, “Oh be careful little eyes.” Whether we are kids, teens, or adults, we all need to be careful or what we see, hear and do. I think some of you would be shocked if you googled lyrics to the “popular” songs or even songs you hear on the radio and sing and dance along to. Half of them you can’t understand what they are saying, so we dance along because it has a good beat. But before we allow music in our vehicles, on our t.v, and in our heads, we might want to know what its saying.
I had never even heard the “song of the summer” Blurred Lines by Robin Thicke until about two weeks ago. Someone was telling me how bad it was so I googled the lyrics. They are very suggestive and condescending to women. After I read the lyrics, I heard it for the first time the next week on the radio. And if I had not googled the words before hand, I probably would have never known what he was saying or suggesting. Its a catchy song with a good beat. But the lyrics are suggestive and say otherwise.
So when he comes out on the VMA’s and him and Miley grind and do suggestive things on stage, is it really any surprise? If you know the lyrics, what they did should be no surprise. The thing that is shocking to me is her mom gave her a standing ovation. She is 20 and he is 36. Oh and he has a wife and kids. So her mom stood up and clapped for her. Good job mom. Good job on telling your “little girl” that you are proud of her for parading around of stage with barely any clothes on, for hanging your tongue out the entire time, and for dancing with a married man, in a way that only his wife should do. And to the guy, great job dad on showing your kids that its ok for you to basically view girls as just a play thing and its perfectly ok to sing about women in a deragatory way and treat them onstage as your play thing. Thats exactly what your kids need to know.
So who are your kids watching? Who do they listen to?
Parents its up to us to show them whats right and wrong. I don’t care if Robin Thicke has 100 hits, he will not be played in my vehicle, we will not watch anything he is on or performing on. If I get a hint of a song by him, the station will be turned with an explanation to my girls that he says not so nice stuff and acts in a way that is inappropriate. That my friends is my job as a mom. We are so surprised by how people dress and act but yet, as parents we allow it. We tell them its ok. We say, “Oh its just a song, or just a tv show, or just a video.” if that was the case then we wouldn’t have girls dressing in a way that tells the world they don’t care who sees their bodies, and any attention is good attention.
I am a firm believer that we show and tell people how to treat us. If you want guys to view you as less, ladies, then dress in a way that leaves little to the imagination, “twerk” in your videos, and basically degrade yourself. If you want guys or anyone to treat you with respect, you have to respect yourself. Respect yourself enough to be modest and clothe yourself where you are not getting attention for whats showing but for who you really are. Conduct yourself in a way that shows people you respect yourself, and you give respect so you deserve respect.
I want my girls to learn right from wrong from me and my husband, not from the world. I want them to know whats respectable and acceptable to us, and in our house, and why. Because when they get to be an adult, I want them to have a firm, Godly foundation to base their life, decisions, the way they date, the friends they have, and even how they dress on. If we don’t set the standards for them, then the world will.
Its my job to set the example. Does that mean they will not rebel or have some not so great shining moments? Nope. They will mess up and make wrong decisions. But if we raise them right, be their biggest supporter but also their greatest example, then when they do mess up, make wrong decisions, they will know it because they were raised with that foundation.
So what kind of parent, aunt, uncle, brother, sister, or friend are you? The one that gives the standing O even when they have shamed themselves or the one who is the example so the other person would know not to be up there doing it in the first place?